Gay Marriage - accepted or not?

Jul 2011
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Hi, New to the blog here, i feel that people should have the right to decide what they want but there might be consequences following that. However, whether gay couples should adopt children is still a gray area for me
 
Mar 2009
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However, whether gay couples should adopt children is still a gray area for me
I would say I am against it unless the child has no other options. Mainly due to the cruelty of many children. If an adult makes a decision to live with something like that fine. But as with many decisions adults make, is it fair to drag a child into it? I know when my son-in-law decided to become my daughter-in-law it stirred up my own life more than I would have guessed.:(
 
Jul 2011
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I think some people need to be reminded that the question is not Do you accept gays but Do you accept gay marriage.

Do we accept gays if we don't accept gay marriage?

Is it actually possible to not accept gays for "religious" reasons?

Suppose the question was, do we accept marriage among black people? Would that be a question any real religion would ask?

We accept our fellow human beings, or we don't. One is religious, the other is not.
 
Mar 2011
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Rhondda, Cymru
There are problems with the idea of same-sex couples bringing up children to live in a mixed-sex world, but the key thing is that someone should love and protect them.
 
Mar 2009
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Gay have a Heart same as Guy and Women why just you Think this ?:help:
I don't think anyone has a monopoly on that or any other opinion. From the best to the most sick of opinions there seems to usually be someone that agrees with it.
 
Jul 2011
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This topic leads to so many different discussions... I'm starting to think is one thread big enough to hold it all.

We have seen people bring in adoption, sex, the simple ethics of homosexual relationships, religion... o my.
 
Aug 2010
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Now there's the rub. Each side is looking to have their position publicly endorsed by the state.

I think one solution is to ensure that the state cannot publicly endorse anyone or any position. Even better would be to remove the state entirely, but that's a whole other discussion.
 
Jul 2009
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Port St. Lucie
I think one solution is to ensure that the state cannot publicly endorse anyone or any position. Even better would be to remove the state entirely, but that's a whole other discussion.

You need to ask myp for the anarchist title. :D
 

myp

Jan 2009
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I am actually with TortoiseDream on that one. Marriage is very much a religious and/or personal relationship. I do not see why it should be of any concern to the state. And no, I do not think married people should get different tax treatment than single people just based on the fact they are married/not.
 
Jul 2009
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Port St. Lucie
I am actually with TortoiseDream on that one. Marriage is very much a religious and/or personal relationship. I do not see why it should be of any concern to the state. And no, I do not think married people should get different tax treatment than single people just based on the fact they are married/not.

Marriage is actually a civil institution, it's religion that got in the way. Just saying.
 
Jul 2011
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Marriage is actually a civil institution, it's religion that got in the way. Just saying.
Marriage is a social union or legal contract between people that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or subculture in which it is found. Such a union, often formalized via a wedding ceremony, may also be called matrimony.
People marry for many reasons, including one or more of the following: legal, social, libidinal, emotional, economic, spiritual, and religious. These might include arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of commitment.[1][2] The act of marriage usually creates normative or legal obligations between the individuals involved. In some societies these obligations also extend to certain family members of the married persons. Some cultures allow the dissolution of marriage through divorce or annulment.
Marriage is usually recognized by the state, a religious authority, or both. It is often viewed as a contract. Civil marriage is the legal concept of marriage as a governmental institution irrespective of religious affiliation, in accordance with marriage laws of the jurisdiction.

It's interesting to learn that marriage isn't something religious but has many different reasons. Now with the knowledge I will always say that the joining of 2 people for life should be accepted by all no matter what age, gender, race....
 

myp

Jan 2009
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Marriage is actually a civil institution, it's religion that got in the way. Just saying.
Even then, people lived with a partner and often raised their kids, etc. before even the creation of the state. In other civilizations like those of the Native Americans, people lived in family units and got married even though there wasn't a legal system like that we have with contracts, etc. And precedent aside, it is still a relationship that the two involved make today in a very personal decision. I just don't see the need for the state in it.
 
Jul 2009
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Even then, people lived with a partner and often raised their kids, etc. before even the creation of the state. In other civilizations like those of the Native Americans, people lived in family units and got married even though there wasn't a legal system like that we have with contracts, etc. And precedent aside, it is still a relationship that the two involved make today in a very personal decision. I just don't see the need for the state in it.

TBH I wasn't so much disagreeing as I was simply pointing out that the 'marriage is a sacrament' argument holds no water.
 
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TBH I wasn't so much disagreeing as I was simply pointing out that the 'marriage is a sacrament' argument holds no water.
It only holds water with those that believe it is a "sacrament". Much of what is marriage depends on the ones living in that marriage.
 
Jul 2009
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It only holds water with those that believe it is a "sacrament". Much of what is marriage depends on the ones living in that marriage.

I'm speaking legally though. The entire argument against same-sex marriage can be watered down to 'it's a sacrament' or 'it's a religious institution and so marriage shouldn't be legally recognized period'. But if you look at history you find that marriage has always been a civil and secular institution and that it's connections with religion are relatively recent.
 
Mar 2009
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I'm speaking legally though. The entire argument against same-sex marriage can be watered down to 'it's a sacrament' or 'it's a religious institution and so marriage shouldn't be legally recognized period'. But if you look at history you find that marriage has always been a civil and secular institution and that it's connections with religion are relatively recent.
Legally speaking it is only a contract. That would not mean much to some people. Of course marriage does not seem to mean much to some people anyway.:p
 
Jul 2009
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Legally speaking it is only a contract. That would not mean much to some people. Of course marriage does not seem to mean much to some people anyway.:p

It might be a contract but it's a contract that not everyone can enter into. Say 2 gay men go to a church and ask to get married, they get turned away. This is fine, the Bible is quite clear on that point. Then that same couple goes to courthouse and still get turned away. This despite the fact that our civil gov't is secular. You don't see the problem?
 
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It might be a contract but it's a contract that not everyone can enter into. Say 2 gay men go to a church and ask to get married, they get turned away. This is fine, the Bible is quite clear on that point. Then that same couple goes to courthouse and still get turned away. This despite the fact that our civil gov't is secular. You don't see the problem?
I will be honest, it is not at the top of my worry list. But if they stopped letting anyone get married at the courthouse it would not worry me either. Marriage has always been more of a religious process to me anyway.
 
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