Addressing the Gay Issue

chris7375 · Jun 13, 2012

Well I am new to this forum I feel I must weigh in on this thread. I am Christian and I am proud of my faith in God and how he has worked in my life.
Though I can say for certain I do not agree with a persons choice to be in a homosexual relationship I don't hold it against them. I spoke my peace to my gay friends and they listened and heard me out and all is fine.
I don't believe their choice in sexual preference makes them a bad person by far my friends are some of the nicest people one could meet.
I believe God states he gives all people a choice to except Jesus as one's Saviour or not to and it is their choice to accept or deny.
Though I may believe that their choice is wrong I don't truely think it makes the person bad.
That is just my view though.

Cerise · Jun 13, 2012

Why do you think homosexuality is a choice anymore than heterosexuality is?

clax · Jun 13, 2012

Cerise said:
Why do you think homosexuality is a choice anymore than heterosexuality is?

I don't, if it was, nobody would be gay, why would anybody want that who could help it. Gay people suffer from bigotry, anonomos hate and depression is normally linked to it as well. If you could choose to be straight why wouldnt you

myp · Jun 13, 2012

clax said:
I don't, if it was, nobody would be gay, why would anybody want that who could help it. Gay people suffer from bigotry, anonomos hate and depression is normally linked to it as well. If you could choose to be straight why wouldnt you

I think you and Cerise agree a lot more than you two make it seem

clax · Jun 13, 2012

myp said:
I think you and Cerise agree a lot more than you two make it seem

Oh yes we do, it seems we only differ on small stuff, i learned something from cerise, through perssonal messaging. Cerise is wise

The GMan · Jun 13, 2012

A lot of the issues of gay people being depressed or among other things is the notion or stigma from friends and family becoming hostile or turning away from them because of who they are. It's not a choice or even a disease, merely a way of how that one person out of millions look to the same sex for personal attachment, love, and to have a someone to share their life with. Just like their heterosexual counterparts, nothing is different in how they think.

clax · Jun 13, 2012

The GMan said:
A lot of the issues of gay people being depressed or among other things is the notion or stigma from friends and family becoming hostile or turning away from them because of who they are. It's not a choice or even a disease, merely a way of how that one person out of millions look to the same sex for personal attachment, love, and to have a someone to share their life with. Just like their heterosexual counterparts, nothing is different in how they think.

I agree they are no different then heterosexuals. But in my experiance working with teenaged boys, it is simply the notion that they are different, they want to be like their friends and like girls, they try, and become frustrated. And when they accept their differences they genuinly become happier, regardless of friends walking away. I think it is an extra burden on gay people, regardless of anti-gay beliefs in the world. For that i dont think there is any fix for, I only have experiance dealing with teenagers so i dont know about adults and the issues they may face. That being said, all a teenaged boy wants is to be accepted by his peers, and i am sorry for boys who are gay, and wrestling that internally, and the guilt they feel and the akwardness, and the hiding, my heart breaks for them, all i can do is offer my acceptance, confadence, and support. I hope that makes it easier, but it is only just.

That is proof to me that it is not a choice

chris7375 · Jun 19, 2012

Cerise said:
Why do you think homosexuality is a choice anymore than heterosexuality is?

The reason I think that is science has not proved otherwise at the current time. I don't think it is something preprogrammed in a person. We as humans where given the ability to decifer between right and wrong. Does one steal because it is preprogrammed in them? Why has science not proven that it is otherwise you only hear they are close yet not there yet. When science can say for 100 percent without doubt this is a gene then I might consider it but they have yet to do so.

Cerise · Jun 19, 2012

chris7375 said:
The reason I think that is science has not proved otherwise at the current time. I don't think it is something preprogrammed in a person. We as humans where given the ability to decifer between right and wrong. Does one steal because it is preprogrammed in them? Why has science not proven that it is otherwise you only hear they are close yet not there yet. When science can say for 100 percent without doubt this is a gene then I might consider it but they have yet to do so.

With respect, you said that God gives people a choice but yet you are prepared to accept what a scientist 'proves'

I am heterosexual. I was always heterosexual and I didnt have to think about it or choose whether to like men rather than women.
I think it has been proven that some people are more inclined to violence than others.

chris7375 · Jun 19, 2012

Cerise said:
With respect, you said that God gives people a choice but yet you are prepared to accept what a scientist 'proves'

I am heterosexual. I was always heterosexual and I didnt have to think about it or choose whether to like men rather than women.
I think it has been proven that some people are more inclined to violence than others.

Well I also said with 100 percent certainty also which you will never get in life. They can say hey this is the gene but how do they truly know it is? Our understanding and where our science stands at present day though good will never be able to make that a 100 percent guarentee. SO I know I will never have to worry about accepting what science proves. This debate has gone on a long time.
People are going to believe it is a gene and other a choice it is a difference of opinions. I believe it is a choice.

clax · Jun 19, 2012

chris7375 said:
Well I also said with 100 percent certainty also which you will never get in life. They can say hey this is the gene but how do they truly know it is? Our understanding and where our science stands at present day though good will never be able to make that a 100 percent guarentee. SO I know I will never have to worry about accepting what science proves. This debate has gone on a long time.
People are going to believe it is a gene and other a choice it is a difference of opinions. I believe it is a choice.

Why is it either genetics or a choice. Homosexuality is behavior, and behavior may be influenced geneticly, the jury is still out. That being said, what makes you believe behavior is a choice, if I threaten to hit you, you will react typically an involentary behavior, because this is learned, through conditioning.

You having fear of hights or liking the smell of lavender are involentary, but not genetic. Where it is a choice to sleep withsomeone, it is not to be attracted to someone.

clax · Jun 20, 2012

chris7375 said:
Well I also said with 100 percent certainty also which you will never get in life. They can say hey this is the gene but how do they truly know it is? Our understanding and where our science stands at present day though good will never be able to make that a 100 percent guarentee. SO I know I will never have to worry about accepting what science proves. This debate has gone on a long time.
People are going to believe it is a gene and other a choice it is a difference of opinions. I believe it is a choice.

when did you make the choice, when have you lived it, from your perspective how can it be a choice?

I tell you this I have worked with kids between 11 and 17 and when they find out that they are gay, they do everything in their power not to be, the spend many hours in pain and despising themselves because they cant choose not to be homosexual. no parent when their baby is born says I hope he is gay, no child at the age of 7 years says I want to marry someone in my gender. the theory that it is a choice is completely unfounded, it actually goes against human behavior.

do you know any homosexuals?

myp · Jun 22, 2012

chris, you clearly have not taken the time to actually learn about the scientific method and you definitely have not taken the time to read the genetics literature out there. With all due to respect, you do not know what you are talking about.

I am not saying being gay is related to a gene- if anything it would be an allele, but either way I am not sure it is. That does not change the fact that you completely misunderstand how science operates. Sorry but some of the things you say are choices aren't really.

clax · Jun 22, 2012

myp said:
chris, you clearly have not taken the time to actually learn about the scientific method and you definitely have not taken the time to read the genetics literature out there. With all due to respect, you do not know what you are talking about.

I am not saying being gay is related to a gene- if anything it would be an allele, but either way I am not sure it is. That does not change the fact that you completely misunderstand how science operates. Sorry but some of the things you say are choices aren't really.

Wow, i agree with you. How about that.

tecoyah · Oct 3, 2016

Aufgeblassen said:
Far from it. They hurt and shame their parents and other relatives.

That is inaccurate, we each have complete control over our feelings and what they feel is entirely on them.

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