Who Teaches a Child his morals?

chris7375 · Jan 22, 2013

Ok my wife and I got into it tonight and now I am forced to make this thread in here as. We are having a disagreement as to who teaches a child their morals. i say the child learns their morals from their parent and Amanda say the teacher.

I disagree I base my opinion on the news and how children act in situation. Those morals or lack their of is given to the child by their parents and not the teacher. I feel teachers have little effect on a childs morals and a parent has greater effect on them.

tecoyah · Jan 22, 2013

The parents "ARE" the teachers.

chris7375 · Jan 22, 2013

tecoyah said:
The parents "ARE" the teachers.

That's what I said tell that to my wife who is a teacher. I am the stubborn one lol.

clax · Jan 23, 2013

It starts at day one, all children learn the moral way to live through example. If you love your baby he will know he is loved and know how to love. If you show you're baby no love he will not then think he is worth being loved.

Actions speak so much more volume than anything else. Love is the most important of all morals in my opinion. Teachers are sometimes very loving I met one today. Evan was in lone star college during the shooting today and when chris heard he knew evan was there he feared the worst burst into tears in the classroom. His teacher called me, on his cell phone. Chris was hysterical completely disrupted the class but the all showed him so much compassion and four kids called him after they left school making sure he is okay.

Teachers can teach love, but the fundamental is the parents. If you act in love all morals will be aligned to that.

Gottago · Jan 23, 2013

It should be the parents.

But unfortunately, a lot of parents abdicate that position, and leave it to the teachers. And then wonder why the kids won't listen to them.

chris7375 · Jan 23, 2013

Gottago said:
It should be the parents.

But unfortunately, a lot of parents abdicate that position, and leave it to the teachers. And then wonder why the kids won't listen to them.

Though even then I find most kids don't even take a hold of their teachers morals. If the parents abdicate their role to the teacher the problem with that is teachers never stay the same. So in reality the child has little time to learn any morals from a teacher.

Aeonpax · Feb 8, 2013

I'm a "moral relativist" and as such, have taught my daughters more along the lines of accepted societal or individual norms and ethical principles as opposed to the more judeo-christian concepts of good/bad and right/wrong.

My utilitarian belief is the "Golden Rule" and believe that the parents have an inherent and fundamental responsibility to teach their offspring such values.

David · Feb 8, 2013

My morality is this: If it benefits someone without undue harm to others, do it. If it's of no benefit, don't.

Gottago · Feb 8, 2013

I was raised by and live by 'Do Unto Others'.... but I also believe that as long as no harm is done and no infringement on others, have at it.

Teaching a child the difference between 'right and wrong' is the basis for the rest of their lives.

Polydectes · Feb 8, 2013

tecoyah said:
The parents "ARE" the teachers.

This hit the nail on the head.

Aeonpax · Feb 9, 2013

Gottago said:
I was raised by and live by 'Do Unto Others'.... but I also believe that as long as no harm is done and no infringement on others, have at it. Teaching a child the difference between 'right and wrong' is the basis for the rest of their lives.

We are in agreement. In many respects, I'm an ethical hedonist.

reader · Feb 12, 2013

Right, İ find many things really silly that my father mentioned me in the name of moral. İ find because i wasunwillingly forced to question them. İt may shoow family members ar more effective on this but it isnt mean the conclusion always positive. İn fact, the concept of morality, its contents and its necessity still a moot point in philosophy. So they must observe and learn alone, and it must take more time maybe.

Salty · Mar 24, 2013

chris7375 said:
Ok my wife and I got into it tonight and now I am forced to make this thread in here as. We are having a disagreement as to who teaches a child their morals. i say the child learns their morals from their parent and Amanda say the teacher.

I disagree I base my opinion on the news and how children act in situation. Those morals or lack their of is given to the child by their parents and not the teacher. I feel teachers have little effect on a childs morals and a parent has greater effect on them.

Parents set the tone but teachers certainly set an example. I'd be careful of any authority figures including clergy and police who have contact with my child.

Elmer Gantry · Mar 24, 2013

Salty said:
Parents set the tone but teachers certainly set an example. I'd be careful of any authority figures including clergy and police who have contact with my child.

Very true,parents have the primary responsibility when it comes to teaching ethics and morals.

clarapv · Mar 27, 2013

Child education

I am not sure about the real issue here. Who really teaches or Who should teach?
In practice a child learns from somebody who is present and he admires. Wether a parent or teacher, a person he admires. However that learning comes from several sides in each aspect. Learning to deal with future husband/spouse is learned from their parents. Learning to deal with problems is generally learned at home, but can also be learned in a group, in sports for example. Morals are taught by observing people around, somebody who is more present. The core education will be learned from 1 to 3 years old. If the core education is not consistent with a later education, the person will have to solve several contradictions later ( as we all have, that's only the most current situation). No school will be able to fill the flaws of parent's education, simply because when we go to school the major basis of our character are already consolidated.
We learn a lot with our friends as a teenager, so choice of company should be seriously controlled. We learn with teachers in their attitudes. We will learn a lot with some public person we admire , the qualities we see in them (wether real or imagined). No moral lesson will be more effective than what we see. And yes some lessons will be needed also. But inconsistencies will invalidate any theoretic lesson.
Education comes from the example never from what is said.

tecoyah · Mar 27, 2013

clarapv said:
I am not sure about the real issue here. Who really teaches or Who should teach?
In practice a child learns from somebody who is present and he admires. Wether a parent or teacher, a person he admires. However that learning comes from several sides in each aspect. Learning to deal with future husband/spouse is learned from their parents. Learning to deal with problems is generally learned at home, but can also be learned in a group, in sports for example. Morals are taught by observing people around, somebody who is more present. The core education will be learned from 1 to 3 years old. If the core education is not consistent with a later education, the person will have to solve several contradictions later ( as we all have, that's only the most current situation). No school will be able to fill the flaws of parent's education, simply because when we go to school the major basis of our character are already consolidated.
We learn a lot with our friends as a teenager, so choice of company should be seriously controlled. We learn with teachers in their attitudes. We will learn a lot with some public person we admire , the qualities we see in them (wether real or imagined). No moral lesson will be more effective than what we see. And yes some lessons will be needed also. But inconsistencies will invalidate any theoretic lesson.
Education comes from the example never from what is said.

Dayum.....well stated.

dankow · Jul 11, 2013

I think both the teacher and the parent should teach morals to children because most of the time children spend in school

Road Warrior · Jul 11, 2013

While I agree kids can learn morals from other sources such as teachers, church or civic leaders, their primary caregivers should be the primary source of this teaching. Everything else is supplementary.

Iolo · Jul 15, 2013

Children learn their 'morals' from their age-mates, obviously. Later they tend to drift back in nostalgia towards what they think their parents perhaps believed. If anyone ever learned moral behaviour from a teacher he or she was half-witted.

tecoyah · Jul 15, 2013

Iolo said:
Children learn their 'morals' from their age-mates, obviously. Later they tend to drift back in nostalgia towards what they think their parents perhaps believed. If anyone ever learned moral behaviour from a teacher he or she was half-witted.

I suppose then...I must be half witted.

I did indeed learn a few things from my teachers over the years, morals and ethics can come from multiple sources...an in fact I would think they must.

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